Help!
So, it's been over a year that my anger towards my "best friend" Jean has been simmering. If you read my blog you will know that she forgot my 50th birthday. Guess what?? She forgot my 51st birthday too. She knows how hurt I was about the 5oth b'day. I got an e mail from her last night telling me about her fun weekend. Helping her friend with curtains for the new house, eating and visiting with all her special friends. My birthday has been on November 10 for 51 freaking years now.......we've know each other since we were in our mothers' wombs. I think my anger was going to go away if she remembered this b'day but what does it mean that she forgot this one? Do you think God is telling me to call it quits? I e mailed her last night and happened to mention my birthday so today I got an e mail saying how much stress she has in her life since her mom is sick....she's been "near death" for years now.....that's one excuse that's getting old. She's upset that about 3 years ago her dad got mad at her. She said that she was so upset that she cried last night on her way home from all the weekend fun because....STRESS....She has a way of turning things around....." I have SO much stress in my life how can I be expected to think about YOU?" So if I express any anger about this situation she makes ME feel guilty. She also mentioned that I'm so lucky to have my daughters so devoted to me. She is one sick puppy and I'm very sick of her. Lindsay tells me to just end it. Angela ( a work friend) tells me to end it. How do I end it? She'll make me feel like I'm so selfish. I don't know what to do!! Please...anyone who reads this.....give me some advice!! I need help.
posted by Kris | 6:14 PM
2 Comments:
I agree with Lindsay on how you should talk to her. I honestly think (judging on her past behavior) that she will get defensive, and try to make you feel bad about it again. Remember, though, that it is very hard to hear critism about yourself, and her behavior is probably the only way she knows how to defend herself from becoming vulnerable or hurt.
So if, and when, you do confront her, try to see it from her perspective, too. She does have a iffy marriage, her kids dont respect her overly much, and her mom is going through a really hard time, and I am sure it hurts to watch, and not have a someone's shoulder to lean on.
Realize, that she can and will make you feel bad. Do not become defensive yourself. Be the bigger person in this situation.
Oh, and also, her son's girlfriend is ugly.
Think about her grandchildren, ma.
oi.
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